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Happiness

1/29/2014

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What you see above is pure happiness, not a worry in the world, not a thought of anyone or anything else, not a worry about a bill, a issue, the future... just pure happiness. I wish that I could remember what it was that was said around this picture that made such pure happiness I would tattoo it on my eye lids on the inside.. that is how badly I would like to see it every day. It is difficult to feel happiness when so much grief, sadness, and drama is swirling around. If it is not one emotional ripping at your happiness it is another. I was on Facebook early this morning and saw a post by one beautiful blue eyed beauty Christine, who always captures my attention and I read it.

"I woke up with this thought in my head: If peace is the absence of conflict, and love is the absence of judgment, then true happiness is the absence of anguish, no? Think about it… the moment we stop inflicting our own suffering and realize that happiness is a choice (not a destination), then all we'd be left-with is our innate state of stillness and bliss. So why aren't more people unreasonably happy all the time?

Maybe it's because we've been so systematically trained by the media to accept drama as a form of entertainment, that our lives feel somehow incomplete without it (which explains why some people seek or even create drama, confusing the stillness of our soul with boredom).

We've been programmed to always demand bigger/better/faster/more, so even when we reach a state of pure bliss, we think of it as insufficient and immediately try to improve upon what isn't even broken. We have subconsciously deemed true happiness as "not good enough", and go on our "pursuit of happiness" like a hamster on a wheel, when happiness isn't something we have to pursue.. it's in our hearts to discover!

Maybe that's why I love LIFE like a puppy: Wholeheartedly, unconditionally, continuously and with no reservations... I don't need external stimuli.. I think the magic of the breath is entertaining enough.

Each morning when you wake up, before doing anything else… smile! Inviting you to be a soldier of peace in the army of love, your brother Timber (Buddhist Boot Camp)."

While I am not Buddhist the message hit directly home and I wrote this in conjunction with the post as I reshared it.

"Amen! I have allowed drama to run my life for quite some time.. always feeling the need to respond to it... going forward the key is no reaction. I can be happy regardless of what anyone else throws at me. I just HAVE to keep remembering my self worth and self love and self happiness is NOT based on what anyone else feels or does towards me.

It's a new learning process but I will get there.. happiness can be had through grief. Grief is a process that I don't think ever ends you just learn to live through it. So as well as not allowing drama from others, I will work to not allowing my grief to define my happiness.

May you all have a HAPPY SNOW DAY!!!!"

Sadly I have always been a person who has been led by drama, always felt the need to respond, to fight for my point because then and only then will anyone SEE ME. See the hurt that I am in, the pain that it causes me. There is just one big issue with that.... it never stops. People who create drama thrive wholly on the reaction they receive out of the other party, so much so at times they make themselves the victims so they are receiving even more attention from outsiders.  It is easy to do, especially with social media, I see how kids in school get so far that they can bully someone to suicide, because the victim of the drama is reacting .. feeding the tendencies of the bullies.. who in turn need to hurt the victim further, so that when the victim can't take anymore they snap. At which time the true victim is viewed as the apparent cause. Poor Sally look at the things that Amy has said about her online, never knowing that Sally behind the scenes provoked Amy to the point she felt the need to scream out for help.

I have given drama a lot of thought over the past few weeks, and I have a horrible habit of being sucked into it, because I feel my self worth is based on how someone else feels about me, or treats me, even at times if that person is a complete stranger. I mean really why should I care if someone on a public forum bashes me because I am fat or my writing is bad, or a piece of art is ugly. They don't KNOW me... they don't know my heart, they don't know my life.. but me.. I get sucked in and have to deal with it, respond to it. That is MY issue, a problem I have to work through, it is also my issue that I feel the need to state the obvious and post the details of what is going on in my life. I need validation that I am NOT horrible, that I am NOT vicious, that I don't deserve to be treated like garbage, so when I am feeling attacked I feel the need to throw it out there. Why because I am not strong enough to put up a boundary. A invisible barrier that no one can take away my joy or happiness, there is only one little issue with this... they aren't TAKING my joy and happiness I am handing it to them. Freely and whole heartedly handing over my happiness.

This is one of the lines that touched me the most 
"we go on our "pursuit of happiness" like a hamster on a wheel, when happiness isn't something we have to pursue.. it's in our hearts to discover" I shouldn't be pursuing happiness from anything or anyone else than from within myself and God. Period. Who gives a hoot about how anyone feels about you.. if you don't like someone and they obviously don't like you step off. It is that simple, walk away, I did, it isn't that hard once you make up your mind, the hard part comes in when the other person gets bored because their drama target isn't responding and decides to poke at you again. THAT is when the real tests come in. Be strong for yourself, don't turn over your happiness and joy, just turn and say your opinions no longer have justification in my heart and for my happiness.

As I was sitting down to write this post today I read my favorite book Jesus calling and this is was today's message:

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If that isn't an amazing message I don't know what is! God basically just told me.. forget it.. not worth it! I have given you freedom from the words, thoughts, and actions of others... EVEN YOUR OWN! "I will guard you and keep you in constant Peace, as you focus your mind on Me" It's right there.. the answer is RIGHT THERE. I do not need to react for validation and protection I need to remain still and calm and allow the true protector of me to do His. My anxiety over the issues in my life.. turn it OVER.. they will be shriveled away. The answers are all there... just as soon as I focused myself away from drama and others.. the answers ARE RIGHT THERE!

I also recieved another message from a dear God Friend this this morning.
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Choose your battles wisely. If the enemy can't stop you, he'll try real hard to exhaust you. Don't fall for that! Be wise!"
Yet another answer but I would like to add to this one.. he'll also come back and kick the crap out of you when you least expect it. Again.... let them kick, you have protection... you have the ULTIMATE protection..

2 Corinthians 4:9
We are harassed, but we aren't abandoned. We are knocked down, but we aren't knocked out.

So go out today, don't look for happiness outside of yourself and God, see that it is already there, don't allow the free will of others rip your joy from your hands, don't allow yourself to freely hand your happiness and love over. Stand tall and say no matter what, not matter the drama, no matter the grief, no matter the sadness MY HEART is Happy. My happiness is inside of me and nothing can steal that.

Love you all Much,
De's Mommy


(if anyone says one word about me needing a manicure.. I don't, I am serious need of a pedicure though so that is a thoughtful gift LOL)

3 Comments
Jamie Jackson
1/28/2014 11:31:20 pm

I actually took a college honors class about the Pursuit of Happiness. Long story short, the thing I figured out is that no one makes you happy or unhappy except yourself. Sure people can do or say things that are harsh or negative, but they can't make you feel a certain way, only your own reaction to them can. While it was eye opening, that's not always an easy thing- to not be pulled down by negatives. Especially with depression. But it is possible with work. Thanks for this post. I was needing a reminder about all that (being someone who cares too much what others think or say about me)

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Aunt Ann
1/29/2014 12:11:32 am

Re,as we agreed upon--take it all to God and wait for His answer.You did and now have received your answer.Now apply it daily,post today's devotion so it will be in front of you at all times.I read 11Corinthians10:5 from my Everyday Life Bible and hear are the notes from Joyce Meyers:Our thoughts get us into trouble more than anything else.This is because our thoughts are the roots of every word and deed.Through careful strategy and cunning deceit,Satan attempts to set up"strongholds"in our minds.A stronghold is an area in which we are held in bondage due to a wrong way of thinking.Examine what is in your mind.If it does not agree with God's thoughts[the Bible],then cast down your own thoughts and think God's thoughts instead.In order to do this,you must know God's Word well enough to compare your thoughts with what is in the mind of God.People living in the vanity of their own minds not only destroy themselves,but far too often,they bring destruction to others around them.Those who live by God's truth,on the other hand,are blessed and bring blessings to others.The mind is the battlefield! On the battleground of the mind you will either win or lose the war that Satan has launched against you.My heartfelt prayer is that you will cast down imaginations and every high and lofty thing that exalts itself against the knowledge of God,bringing EVERY thought into captivity,into obedience to Jesus Christ so that you can live in VICTORY,JOY,andPEACE.
Re,I'm believing and speaking you have found victory,joy and peace and now have put on the full armour of God that will enable you to void off every conflict Satan throws your way.May you walk away from the battlefield singing"This Joy that I have the world didn't give it to me and the world can't take it away". "I have Peace like a river that floods my soul". "I have VICTORY in Jesus my saviour FOREVER"!!!! Love you and thanking God for you and the help you are continuing to give others through this post.Aunt Ann

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Joan Miller link
1/29/2014 05:48:11 am

It is hard for me so very hard to not care what others think. It defines me. The least little thing hurts me. I don't know how to turn it over to God. I suffer I feel like alone .I feel I made myself unhappy because of the assumptions and actions of others

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