"I woke up with this thought in my head: If peace is the absence of conflict, and love is the absence of judgment, then true happiness is the absence of anguish, no? Think about it… the moment we stop inflicting our own suffering and realize that happiness is a choice (not a destination), then all we'd be left-with is our innate state of stillness and bliss. So why aren't more people unreasonably happy all the time?
Maybe it's because we've been so systematically trained by the media to accept drama as a form of entertainment, that our lives feel somehow incomplete without it (which explains why some people seek or even create drama, confusing the stillness of our soul with boredom).
We've been programmed to always demand bigger/better/faster/more, so even when we reach a state of pure bliss, we think of it as insufficient and immediately try to improve upon what isn't even broken. We have subconsciously deemed true happiness as "not good enough", and go on our "pursuit of happiness" like a hamster on a wheel, when happiness isn't something we have to pursue.. it's in our hearts to discover!
Maybe that's why I love LIFE like a puppy: Wholeheartedly, unconditionally, continuously and with no reservations... I don't need external stimuli.. I think the magic of the breath is entertaining enough.
Each morning when you wake up, before doing anything else… smile! Inviting you to be a soldier of peace in the army of love, your brother Timber (Buddhist Boot Camp)."
While I am not Buddhist the message hit directly home and I wrote this in conjunction with the post as I reshared it.
"Amen! I have allowed drama to run my life for quite some time.. always feeling the need to respond to it... going forward the key is no reaction. I can be happy regardless of what anyone else throws at me. I just HAVE to keep remembering my self worth and self love and self happiness is NOT based on what anyone else feels or does towards me.
It's a new learning process but I will get there.. happiness can be had through grief. Grief is a process that I don't think ever ends you just learn to live through it. So as well as not allowing drama from others, I will work to not allowing my grief to define my happiness.
May you all have a HAPPY SNOW DAY!!!!"
Sadly I have always been a person who has been led by drama, always felt the need to respond, to fight for my point because then and only then will anyone SEE ME. See the hurt that I am in, the pain that it causes me. There is just one big issue with that.... it never stops. People who create drama thrive wholly on the reaction they receive out of the other party, so much so at times they make themselves the victims so they are receiving even more attention from outsiders. It is easy to do, especially with social media, I see how kids in school get so far that they can bully someone to suicide, because the victim of the drama is reacting .. feeding the tendencies of the bullies.. who in turn need to hurt the victim further, so that when the victim can't take anymore they snap. At which time the true victim is viewed as the apparent cause. Poor Sally look at the things that Amy has said about her online, never knowing that Sally behind the scenes provoked Amy to the point she felt the need to scream out for help.
I have given drama a lot of thought over the past few weeks, and I have a horrible habit of being sucked into it, because I feel my self worth is based on how someone else feels about me, or treats me, even at times if that person is a complete stranger. I mean really why should I care if someone on a public forum bashes me because I am fat or my writing is bad, or a piece of art is ugly. They don't KNOW me... they don't know my heart, they don't know my life.. but me.. I get sucked in and have to deal with it, respond to it. That is MY issue, a problem I have to work through, it is also my issue that I feel the need to state the obvious and post the details of what is going on in my life. I need validation that I am NOT horrible, that I am NOT vicious, that I don't deserve to be treated like garbage, so when I am feeling attacked I feel the need to throw it out there. Why because I am not strong enough to put up a boundary. A invisible barrier that no one can take away my joy or happiness, there is only one little issue with this... they aren't TAKING my joy and happiness I am handing it to them. Freely and whole heartedly handing over my happiness.
This is one of the lines that touched me the most "we go on our "pursuit of happiness" like a hamster on a wheel, when happiness isn't something we have to pursue.. it's in our hearts to discover" I shouldn't be pursuing happiness from anything or anyone else than from within myself and God. Period. Who gives a hoot about how anyone feels about you.. if you don't like someone and they obviously don't like you step off. It is that simple, walk away, I did, it isn't that hard once you make up your mind, the hard part comes in when the other person gets bored because their drama target isn't responding and decides to poke at you again. THAT is when the real tests come in. Be strong for yourself, don't turn over your happiness and joy, just turn and say your opinions no longer have justification in my heart and for my happiness.
As I was sitting down to write this post today I read my favorite book Jesus calling and this is was today's message:
I also recieved another message from a dear God Friend this this morning.
"Choose your battles wisely. If the enemy can't stop you, he'll try real hard to exhaust you. Don't fall for that! Be wise!"
Yet another answer but I would like to add to this one.. he'll also come back and kick the crap out of you when you least expect it. Again.... let them kick, you have protection... you have the ULTIMATE protection..
2 Corinthians 4:9
We are harassed, but we aren't abandoned. We are knocked down, but we aren't knocked out.
So go out today, don't look for happiness outside of yourself and God, see that it is already there, don't allow the free will of others rip your joy from your hands, don't allow yourself to freely hand your happiness and love over. Stand tall and say no matter what, not matter the drama, no matter the grief, no matter the sadness MY HEART is Happy. My happiness is inside of me and nothing can steal that.
Love you all Much,
(if anyone says one word about me needing a manicure.. I don't, I am serious need of a pedicure though so that is a thoughtful gift LOL)