For some reason Carlton decided to take this one home (I was at work in Northern Va at the time by the way) all I heard was I have a surprise for you. Well having a kitten when I got home was definitely a surprise, but she was so cute and Deanna already loved her that we kept her.
Now Kittum she loves a few things.. sleeping and eating being the main two.. and a snuggle when SHE wants it... know anyone else like this? I am not saying my daughter was lazy but I promise you she never missed a good nap and a yummy munchie
When De lived with me Kittum was usually found snuggled somewhere she was, on her bed, by her chair, on the sofa... after the accident she slept in her bed for weeks. It was sad to watch her, it was as if Kittum knew something had shifted that De wasn't coming home. I don't know how a cat could know these things but she definitely acted that way. She didn't eat as much.. slowly losing weight so that now she is very tiny. Its not that the food isn't there, it is she has just lost something about herself.
Well last week she got out.. with in 5 minutes she was home. The next day she got out (she found the trick.. scoot out while my hands were full) she came back 10 minutes later.. the following day OUT AGAIN.. 5 minutes later she was back. The fourth and final day she sat at the door and cried, wanting badly to be let out, I looked at her and said.. ok but you have to come right back. That was roughly 6 days ago now. I was worried but much like De.. she was given and inch and she was going to take a mile
Yes I was worried but she kept leaving signs she was close by, so I didn't worry A LOT.. just some. Deanna was much the same when she was with Anita Cecil.. her Mommy 3 or my Mom. I worried but she left me just enough signs that she was ok and that she was around. I let her live her life the way she wanted and needed. I remember being that age.. I ran away umpteen times and I swore I would not put my children through that no matter how bad it hurt I let her life her life as she wanted unless it was going to cause her harm. A bit unconventional yes but so is talking to a cat and giving them a curfew.
So last night as I took Banx out to walk I swiped my eyes around and peaked my ears to listen for any sign of Kittum ... nothing. I tilted my head up to the stars,as I do at night, to talk to De and I said "De keep her safe with you or bring her home." This morning what should appear on my deck rail but Kittum.
She did not arrive quietly begging forgiveness. She arrived with a know it all attitude that shouted.. I am HERE.. LET ME IN NOW. She pranced her way into the house and sat right down and loudly Meowed at me for a good 10 minutes, as I retrieved her food dish from outside washed it and put in new food, calmed the dog down and got him food, and got her food back to it's normal spot. She promptly went to eat and as soon as she was done, she pranced herself over to her brothers bed, strectched and curled up quietly to sleep. Banx was out of his mind with attitude.. "Bark Bark Bark.. she is in my bed!!! Bark Bark Bark.. MOM she is annoying me. Bark Bark Bark.. Put her back out!!!"
Me with my never ending Mommy talents shooed Banx away from the sleeping Kittum saying she needed her rest, that's right you winner you .. praise the one that has been out roaming all week
So for those of you that knew De on a personal level you can relate.. Would she leave home for 5 days? yup.. Would she come back ask for something to eat in a loud and cheerful way with no word of being gone? yup.. Would she annoy the crap out of her brother with it? yup
So you see, this morning I can hear Deanna in heaven laughing and asking "Mom ... did you really think I would leave you? I am close. I am here." Because as long as that cat is living her ways live on.
Much love to you De.. much much love.. Mommy needed this.
I love you.