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The Unbearable Bond.

1/28/2015

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The Grieving Angel. Hollywood Cemetery
Last night as I was trying to go to sleep my thoughts kept racing as they often do, and my mind landed on grieving parents.

The Unbearable Bond

I thought I only had Deanna for 19 and Little Dustin for 15 years.
I remembered some parents didn't have 19 or 15 minutes.

I thought my only daughter is gone!
I remembered some parents lost their only child.

I thought my children didn't get to see their brother again.
I remembered some children never met their sibling.

I thought they died so instantly, no one got to say goodbye.
I remembered parents who watched their children in sickness for days, weeks, months, years.

I thought I wouldn't see my daughter married.
I remembered some didn't see their daughter walk.

I thought Little Dustin would never teach his son to play ball.
I remembered Dad's who didn't get to teach their sons.

I thought the kids they were so full of life, they didn't want to die!
I remembered the parents who's child chose the end.

I thought I wasn't there when they went to heaven!
I remembered parents who can't get the image out of their minds.

I thought why did God take my children in heaven.
I remembered parents who have no belief.

I thought how could two of my kids be gone.
I remembered parents who lost all of their children.

I thought I didn't get to say I love you one more time.
I remembered of parents who never heard the words.

I thought of how I missed their smiles.
I remembered parents of the unborn.

I thought of the accident scenes imbedded in my mind. 
I remembered some died on foreign land.

I thought of Deanna and Little Dustin in their final beds.
I remembered some children were never found.

I thought of all the differences.
I remembered we all loved and lost our children.

I thought I was so alone.
I remembered all of you.
14 Comments
stephanie
1/27/2015 08:51:08 pm

I love you **hugs***

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Re
1/27/2015 08:52:47 pm

Love you too!

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Chesapeake Bay Woman link
1/27/2015 08:58:00 pm

This is outstanding. Absolutely outstanding. I'm sorry for the reason it was created, but this is one of your best.

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Re
1/27/2015 09:49:09 pm

xoxo

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jan link
1/27/2015 09:30:03 pm

This truly is a wonder poem it is so powerfull and true. The comparison between what different parents experience due to their children or child dying.
The comparison is expressed in away that it helps console those who had years and those that had only minutes or days with their children or child.
Well spoken my friend..

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Re
1/27/2015 09:49:53 pm

Thank you Jan! May you find a bit of sunshine today!

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liz
1/27/2015 10:59:23 pm

I agree, this is very powerful and shows how far you have come. I am proud of you and love you.

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Kim Lee
1/27/2015 11:02:22 pm

Beautiful ~ tears, sniffles, ~ HUGS <3

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Dianne link
1/28/2015 12:20:29 am

Just powerfully poignant. Even though we think ours is the WORST and, when it happens, it IS the worst experience known, so many other circumstances attached to each loss. I was blessed to have my son 19 years. I am blessed to have made my way into the Compassionate Friends group.

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tara sullivan link
1/28/2015 03:19:50 am

That is absolutly beautiful,thats how I always tried 2 look at it.thanks so much 4 sharing!

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Christen McGinnes
1/28/2015 06:45:43 am

Wow. Stunning. Powerful. Poignant. Horrible and beautiful both. You really got it with this post. Proud of you! I hope that the release of these words brings relief and some peace, my dear friend. Love you.

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Heather
1/28/2015 11:10:58 am

Thank you

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Tammy
1/28/2015 11:23:36 am

that was amazing to read thank you so much

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Cindy
1/28/2015 12:13:36 pm

Thank you Re........it's beautiful and maybe it will help others grieving not just over the loss of a child but over heartbreaks involving ended relationship. To help us see and enjoy the memories stored in our heart as a blessing and not concentrate on what we missed.

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